My roommate brings out the worst in me. Had another conversation about chores. Thing is I know it irritates her enough that she broke her silent treatment long enough to bring them up. I'm still not doing common room chores, but I'll do bathroom ones to keep the "peace." I feel like if she decided this herself, I can also decide for myself that I don't want to do them. It's just a stupid disagreement, but basically she hates my entire lifestyle. She doesn't like how I'm messy, how I'm up at odd hours, how I procrastinate, how I put on headphones and ignore her and I don't really remember what else. It's like there are problems from how I blow my nose, to how I do my chores and clean the bathroom.
I think that even if we weren't roommates, we wouldn't get along. I wouldn't go as far as to say I hate her, I'm going to avoid pissing her off on purpose, but I'm not going to act like a mouse in my own room. She accuses me of a lot of things that aren't my fault. I have a pair of headphones and I listen with the volume pretty low, even when I take the headphones off I can't hear the music, so she shouldn't blame me for faint music or ringing noises she hears at night. I shouldn't have to go to sleep when she does, or turn off my desk lamp when she sleeps, I need more then the light of the computer screen to read a book. Honestly I shouldn't even need to justify every single little thing I do. Both of us are pretty quiet, I don't come in and out of the room at odd hours, in fact I really don't make much noise at all. If I plop my textbook on the floor once and make a loud noise, thats really not grounds for her to get upset.
Bottom line is that I know I annoy her a lot. Probably I guess right about 60% of the time and the rest of the time I don't figure it out. Honestly, I think you just have to rank some things above others. I dislike how she keeps the window open on hot days for her plant, but if its not hotter inside the room then outside when I get back, its bearable. There a things I dislike about her, but if it really doesn't effect me, then I don't bother to get angry. I just feel annoyed because as soon as I come back thats all I hear. If I make noise, she comments. If I eat cheetos without sharing, she comments. If I take a nap, she comments. I want my own room again.